BrrrING ARGUMENTS TO A HALT
A simple remedy that works every time.
by Dan Pantano
I can sometimes be loud when dealing with issues that are important to me, I tend to discuss things loudly. I'm not angry, I just get loud.
Have you ever been in a discussion with your spouse and you began to disagree with them? Have the tone of your voices gotten more and more harsh and perhaps even louder?
Then all of a sudden your phone rings and you immediately answer in a very calm voice, “Hello.”
Do you know you can use that same mindset to turn your tone down? Immediately, in an instant, without much effort, no matter how loud or upset you may be, just like your phone call answer, you can switch your tone.
My wife Gina and I agreed to use this reminder: when things are getting emotional we just mock a phone ringing and say “Brrring!”. It makes the other person realize what's happening and de-escalate the tone in their voice so together we can have a milder discussion instead. Try it. We think you'll agree.
This should help any couple have a Valentinier Valentines Day!